“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.” Theodore Roosevelt.
If you missed last blog it was about achieving goals and we all know that there are all sorts of obstacles that try hard to prevent us from getting to our destination. When I look back on my journey I know without a doubt that I am the least likely to be where I am today. From humble beginnings to life in a refugee camp, to living in a forest without anything to call my own and now being blessed with what I have today, I sometimes stand in a mirror and just shake my head. Life is unpredictable, that is for certain, and I am a living proof of that. I have actually stood in a room and on many occasions I would look around and know without a doubt, that among all the people standing there I was the least likely to be in that room at that moment. Other that my past though, like many other go getters out there I have met and I still meet my own fair share of the naysayers in my journey towards my life goals. I have learned how to take lemons thrown at me and make lemonade. Today I am sharing with you some of the ways I use my naysayers to my advantage.
-They give me the strength to prove them wrong.
I used to take to heart the comments of the naysayers that I meet on my journey, until I learned how to use those moments for life lessons that kept me going. I am one of those people who like to go the less traveled routes, whenever I meet someone who tells me that I am not going to make it, I take it on myself to make sure that those words never become my reality, I work hard against all odds using that as a motivation to prove them wrong one day.
-They show me I am on the right track.
Sometimes the naysayers are the people who envy the courage and determination that we are exhibiting on our journey, the feeling that my endeavors are making people question my ability tells me that there is something inside me that is threatening them at the moment and that is what I hold onto.
-They help me establish my authenticity.
We have all met the “This is how it’s done” people, they are very comfortable in their current positions or situations that exploring outside the box becomes a struggle. I believe that no two life journeys are the same, we are all given different paths and no life is a photocopy of another, what one person cherished the most can be someone else’s burden, the secret is to find your own path and make it truly your OWN.
-They open doors to my exploration of options
Some of the naysayers may be those who tried and failed, another way that I benefit from naysayers is by exploring the other available options that they haven’t tried before towards my goal. If they are discouraging me because they have done it in the past and failed, I use their situation as a reference to what not to do, if I know that route A failed it saves me time to go straight to route B. You know the saying that every time God shuts a door he opens a window well what if God had actually opened five doors to begin with and you were only focused on the one, there are four other doors that lead to the same room waiting at just a shift of focus.
-They help me appreciate it more when i get on the other side.
Lastly, when I do reach my destination, I look back at the naysayers with a smile, I know that some of them only meant well, others spoke out of fear and/ or defeat and I know to appreciate the goal that I have attained knowing that it is one of a kind and that someone somewhere thought it won’t be achieved. Knowing that I have attained what seemed impossible to some people along the way magnifies my accomplishment.
The truth is the naysayers will always be there, they are people around us, circumstances of life, setbacks to overcome and the only way to succeed at attaining your goals is to learn how to tune them all out and live the life we know we are given authentically.